I haven’t documented this pregnancy any, so here’s the rundown:
- July – came off birth control. Based on my “normal”cycles, it was past the fertility window.
- August – “Hmm. The last time I felt like this, I was pregnant.” Peed on a stick. Positive. Holy … how’d that happen? Doc called me in for a beta, according to which, I was about 4 weeks pregnant. Seriously, how’d that happen?
- September – supposed “8 week” appointment (per beta levels). LMP date was 10w6d. Baby size, via ultrasound, was 9w1d. We decide to go with baby’s size for due date, as good as anything else.
- October – 13 week appointment. HB 155. I have not gained any weight and my blood sugar is dropping every two hours making me nauseous and shaky. Told to eat high protein snacks to keep sugars leveled out, weight is fine as long as baby is growing appropriately (as measured by belly).
- November 1 – start telling family and friends.
- November 2 – feel baby for first time. I got into car and felt the lump, which was apparently squished cause it moved over.
- November – 17 week appointment. HB 148. I still have not gained any weight, I still have 0 appetite, periodic nausea, and I ITCH. Still not worried about weight (“baby is gaining, you are losing”) and told to try Benadryl for itching. Quad screen comes back with no markers.
- December- 20 week ultrasound. Baby measures 19w5d, so on track. We decide not to learn baby’s sex. Baby has brain, bones, all internal organs, and does not like the ultrasound wand on its head. Still have not gained any weight. Doc still not worried.
My next appointment is on Monday, and I am predicting that I still will not have gained any weight (per my home scale). Which seems to bother me a lot more than the doctors. I started out this pregnancy at an “obese” level BMI, and I didn’t gain all that much with either of the other two pregnancies, so I’m not panicking by any means. My blood sugar seems to have finally leveled out – I have my own personal theory that it was my blood volume changing so much in the first trimester that really threw it off. The same thing happens when I donate blood, and I’ve been told that the volumetric change hits my blood sugar levels (I get to drink soda while they are drawing blood to help regulate the levels now, and it seems to work. I don’t feel nauseous or like I’m going to pass out afterwards.) BUT I am way more exhausted this time around, which I attribute to the baby pulling everything it needs from my body, rather than me adding weight to supply it with raw materials. And I still have no appetite, other than at breakfast.
I’ve started trying to walk every day in an attempt to build up some muscle tone and endurance. I felt so bad the first trimester that I didn’t work out at all, and I’m getting winded every morning climbing the stairs in our building. It’s a good and bad thing. Good, that I’ll build up some endurance and hopefully not be pure jelly after the baby is born. Bad, that my pelvic instability, which had FINALLY seemed to clear up when Smaller hit about 18-20 months, has come right back. I have to be careful when I roll out of bed, or sneeze, or pick up the kids so that I don’t pull the ligaments inside my pelvis, and it has already started to pop as the joints are loosening up. I have my hip support at the ready, but I haven’t had to wear it yet – I know it’s just a matter of time.
Compared to my previous pregnancies, this has been much harder on me physically. The soreness, the exhaustion, the nausea – I’m not enjoying this as much as I did the other two. We had already pretty much decided that this would be our last baby, but the last few months have made me really not want to do this again. So unless we have an accident of some fashion, this is our finale baby.
It’s an odd thing to think about – closing this chapter of my life. I’ve been trying to get pregnant, or been pregnant, or had a small baby since 2005. That’s 9 years spending a LOT of time in baby-world. I have friends who were done after two, or three, and started giving away all their stuff. I couldn’t comprehend it then how they could make that decision and be confident enough to pass me bags and bags of things that they didn’t want back. (If you’re reading this Jess, I still have the bassinet and am about to bring it back out 🙂 LOVE it!) But now, NOW I understand. The urge to keep going is gone. I told Manly – my heart would love to have another one, to have the four kids that we had talked about when we got married*. But my body, and my budget, are telling me that three are enough. And he agrees**.
Some mornings, it’s still hard to wrap my mind around the fact that this will be my last pregnancy.
Some nights, after fighting bedtime for an hour, I can’t believe that we decided to do this again.
But most of the time, I think we made the right decision. I think one more will make us happier when they are all older and more self-sufficient. I look forward to being able to pack up baby clothes and gear and pass it on to friends who will need it, or sell it at consignment and add the money to their college accounts. I’ll be able to get the changing table out of my dining room. The kids are already excited about new baby. And I will have the freedom to make career decisions without worrying about my availability for long-term, or short-term, assignments. Everything we feel tells us that this is the path for us.
So now it’s just the countdown to delivery day. Monday is 24 weeks, which means I’m almost out of the second tri. Which I cannot believe – for all it’s been harder, this one has gone so much faster. Soon enough, we’ll be meeting our surprise and starting the next phase of our life. And figuring out where we want to go from there.
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*For the record, HE wanted four. I agreed to two, and that we would evaluate higher numbers then.
**Daddy stays home with the zoo all day long. Even if I really, seriously, wanted four, I would defer to his sanity levels.