Here’s the sitch: my friend, who was pregnant with me when I announced Mini to the world and then miscarried, ended up doing IVF. She had her retrieval last Friday, which means we’ll all know if it worked or not next weekend.
My second ob visit with Smaller (there you go Becky, your name as requested) is on Monday. I haven’t told anyone except our families yet because I wanted to get safely out of the first tri, and another heartbeat check will make me feel better.
So, my dilemna is — do I tell right before my friend? If her test is positive, then my announcement becomes old news and she can have the spotlight. If hers is negative, then I’m again in the awkward spot of being pregnant without her. But if I wait til after, I’m going to want to wait a few weeks, which puts me basically showing up being Very Pregnant and I don’t want any appearance of trying to steal her thunder.
Gah. This is a sucky decision either way, I think. And I’m going to have to tell at work soon since I’m pushing the limits of my normal clothes, and that is bound to get back to my circle of friends (several of us work for this company) and I want to let everyone know upfront instead of through the rumor mill.
Advice, please? Tell me what you think I should do.