Thank you all for your comments on that last post! My husband’ts family can be a bit … difficult to deal with most of the time. And I was feeling especially vulnerable the other night, so the littlest things were quite hurtful.
There are actually several people who do know what’s going on now; his mom and dad have been told, and his brother and his wife know that we’ve been trying for two years. He explained to Detroit-aunt what was happening when she asked the other night, so it will spread through the family up there in about 24 hours (as soon as she gets back home, she’ll be on the phone). D-aunt actually told him that one of his uncles went through the same thing with their first, so that part of the family does have some sympathy; they just weren’t the ones at dinner. Manly runs interference on the communication with his relatives, and the word is getting out slowly. I know he’s trying to protect me because there WILL be assvice next time I see anyone who knows.
Like any family, there are some people who I really would like to talk to; my MIL and my littlest SIL would be ideal. Other people, like D-aunt and my BIL, fall in the clueless but caring category. I don’t mind if they know, but they are notorious for trying to help and I know that at some point, they will say crap that will be painful. But at least they’re trying, and that counts for a lot. Then there’s the third category that I don’t want to know, specifically one uncle and g-ma, who will find a way to make innocent sounding comments that are really quite nasty. The catch-22 is that if I tell the people who would support me, eventually it will get back to the people I don’t want knowing.
This year will be our five year anniversary, so our grace period for not having babies yet is running out. We might get another year, and then people are going to start really asking what’s going on, and we won’t be able to fend them off. I know that we’re going to have to come clean eventually, but I’m trying to hang on to this last bit of privacy that I’ve got.
Anyway. I’m headed out for a work trip for the next few days. I’ll try to post a few times, but it will be pretty late at night. Hmmm. I’m short on time this morning, so for your distraction, go on over to Infertile Fantasies and click on Bea’s adsense ads. She’s donating the money from adsense as part of her 50 good deeds in 07, so help her out.